Integrating sexuality and spirituality : an exploration of friendship in consecrated celibacy

Abstract

The aim of this work is to show that the only fully adequate motivation for a lifelong choice for consecrated celibacy is a deep exclusive and intimate relationship with Jesus Christ. Intimacy with God is not one way to live consecrated celibacy meaningfully, but it is the only way. However, such intimacy with God, essential as it is, does not mean exclusion of human affections as unworthy for love of God alone. Consecrated celibacy is one way of loving which entails pursuing and developing human friendships that are not possessive, exclusive and genital. Hence the sort of friendships this study will delve into, are those categories of intimate human relations which do not aim at sexual intimacy, partnership or marriage as their goal. The study will demonstrate that, such friendships are possible for persons profoundly committed to the Lord and who have undergone a healthy human psychosexual development and have integrated well their sexuality and spirituality. This research addresses both men and women who have vowed celibacy for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Its findings and the various reflections is an attempt to add something new and contribute to the ongoing debate about consecrated celibacy. It will likewise help those called to consecrated celibacy better understand themselves as both sexual and spiritual human beings.